Growing up, I looked up to my mother as my role model. She is a strong individual who has been through a lot of challenges in life. Her name is Cassie, she is my best friend! Through out my life, I watched my parents love unconditionally. The past few years got a little rough and we started going through a lot of changes. Seven years ago we left Fall River and moved to a small town called Berkley. Living there for five years, I watched my parents get a little distant. I kept a close relationship with my mom. I felt my life was going to change after graduating High School, and oh was I right! A week after my graduation my mom called me home to some bad news. Her and my dad were filing for divorce. I felt this coming, because my dad got a second job and stopped coming home for supper. He started to become a stranger. Keeping the relationship I have with my mom, knowing that we have each other, we knew we could get through this. We sold the house in two days! My dad moved to the cape with his new girlfriend and my mother and I found a condo to live in back here in Fall River.
My mom, being the independent and strong, knew not to let the 20 year marriage that failed, get the best of her. She reunited with an old high school friend Alan Theberge, and she fell in love again. The day I finally got to meet him, is the day he proposed to her. That day on, they were inseparable and perfect for each other. In such short time, Alan became one of my best friends, and i got use to him being around. Not replacing my dad, but showing me how someone can care for two people who are going through a lot. Alan, being a smart adult, helped me through school and relationships. Alan and my mother were so in love, that they got each others names on each others necks. Alan got a second one on his forearm of her maiden name as he got me my first tattoo. I have never seen my mom so happy. They had their wedding all planned out for February 14, 2010. My mom went and got her wedding dress as Alan got the wedding rings. He was looking into buying a lot in Somerset to build a house on.
Four months later, Alan suddenly passed away from kidney and live failure. I watched my mom from being the happiest women in the world, to the most depressed. Four days before Christmas, ended the perfect engagement. Being my moms best friend, I was the shoulder for her to cry on. We spent Christmas with out him. Waking up in the middle of the night to hear my mom crying, became a routine for me. It's not easy watching my parents split, moving, my mom getting engaged and then him passing away. This was all to much for us.
Going into the new year, my mother and I find out that my sister, who is 26 will be having a baby on the day Alan and my mother got engaged. One life is taken and one life is given! My mother needed some kid of closure, so I got her tickets to see a medium named Maureen Hancock hoping that my step dad would come through in some way to let her know that he is okay. Luckily, at the end of the session, one of my friends who died came through, and Alan was connected through him. Alan thanked my mom for being the women she is and showing him that he can love. He is watching over us, and will follow his son through the years of his life. Every night I pray for him, and I keep the closest relationship possible to my mom. I learned not to take life for granted, take each day as it comes, live like there's no tomorrow, and be who you want to be not who others want you to be.
In conclusion of these tragic events, my mother changed her name from Cassie Salva, back to her maiden name Cassie Connell. Since the closure of Alan's spirit of telling her to move on and find love again, my mom is doing okay. I watch this 45 year old, beautiful women, hold her head high, and live her life like there's no end. She knows nothing is promised, and not to take advantage of anything. She got to spend that four amazing months with an amazing man and gave him love again. " They will love forever."
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hey, thanks for commenting on my blog, i could relate to yours to, you've been throught alot too and it show that your very independant and strong.. Paris was amazing :) well see you in schooool
ReplyDeleteKylee, what an awful series of events to go through (though brightened by the love shared so briefly). Your telling, though, seems like a bit of an overview. You don't really *show* us your relationship to your mother or show how she got through all these sad events. The example of her crying in the middle of the night is a start in the right direction, but I'd like to see more of that sort of thing. When you think back through these experiences, do you remember specific times, specific conversations, things you did together or that you watched her doing? Could you show us some memories of how you supported each other when going through the divorce? (You've taken on quite a challenge in trying to write about experiences that are so recent and raw.)
ReplyDeleteThe lessons that you write about at the end are quite general. Important lessons to be sure, but how have they changed the way you live, the way your mother lives? (And I wasn't quite sure about the one "be who you want to be not who someone wants you to be." In a way that's a more interesting lesson to me than the live-like-there's-no-tomorrow, which people say but I'm not sure they really do?? But how does this lesson about being yourself grow out of your mother's experience? And how has it affected your way of living?)
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Kylee i found myself reading this over and over, this was an excellent essay the way you wrote is the way it happened i can relate to this i just lost a very close friend in november to kidney failure and it happened so abrupt like that. it happened out of the blue random. Its awful knowing some1 is dying but not knowing is even worse. Its a part of life, we all live to die and we are all dying to live. Your mother was lucky top have loved and be loved than to never know what love is. Hopefully she will find another love and be happy. Trust me he'll always be with the both of you. This essay was great i thought the structure was excellent, the only thing was that maybe you should have talked about why you looked to your mother a role model a little more, but great essay.
ReplyDeleteim glad to know someone elses mom is their best friend too. Im glad you stayed strong. It must have been hard having to be there for your mom when alan passed away did you ever get a chance to greive?
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